The basis of all strong couple relationships is learning how to be better friends with your partner.

Research into Couple Counselling using the Gottman method couples therapy shows that having more fun with your partner is the basis for closer more supportive relationships and therefore better mental health. Deeper friendship with your partner is the foundation that leads to greater intimacy, love and fun.This sense of safety and  ‘coupleness’ now allows you to deal more effectively with the outside world – and this increases both your chances of living longer!

Masters  

John Gottman says couples fall into one of two categories – the Masters of relationships or the Disasters of relationships. Through evidence based research spanning over 40 years, he has discovered Masters turn towards their partner. Therefore, they listen. They respond to their partners bids for attention. Masters use appreciation. Noticing the little things their partner does, they follow this with gentle ways of bringing up conflict. Above all, they know how to repair the relationship if conflict happens.

And Disasters

Whereas Disasters have been found to rarely give appreciation. Instead, they turn away, and often use criticism, contempt and blame when talking to their partner. Harsh start ups escalate conflict. There are few repair attempts after a fight. Disasters are often stuck in an attack and defend system. In short, they don’t know how or have lost the ability to connect at a heart level. 

Couple Counselling using Gottman method couples therapy: Teaching couples healthy relationship skills

Move into a more appreciative way of being by using healthier communication skills. Improve your feelings of intimacy, closeness and romance by building a stronger friendship system and a strong couple relationship. From this now fertile base, you can learn skills in how to deal with conflict. Face, and deal with old hurts and gridlocked issues. 

Flourishing relationships strengthens individual confidence and self love. This nourishment and improved self esteem filters out into all areas of your life. It also strengthens your ability to deal with past traumas and difficulties from other times in your life that might be getting in the way. 

To sum up –  Couple Counselling using the Gottman method of couples therapy strengthens your  relationship by teaching you how to improve intimacy and understanding, thereby being better friends with your partner. Feel individually more resilient and nourished by growing your feelings of togetherness and safety. Rippling out into other areas of your life, it strengthens how you are at work, with colleagues, dealing with extended family and friends.  Better relationships create greater confidence. And greater well being.

 Learn how to improve your relationship by contacting Wen.